What should I wear to please him?

It is 7pm. You are standing in front of your mirror, knickers on, maybe not the right ones because you have not quite figured the math. The wardrobe is open, wide open, full of clothes, from the grandma half calf high-waisted black ample velour skirt to the tiniest denim skinny shorts. At 8pm, he is going to ring at your door and take you out.

If he is a gentleman, because let us be honest, nowadays chances are that he will have called you and set an hour to meet up at a cozy/elegant enough pub (meaning if you don't have your ass fondled by the first beer drunker after 23 minutes in you will be lucky).

Point is: what should you wear?

You like him, you like the both of you together, and you want him to look at you. You want him to want to be with you really: you want him to enjoy your appearance, to be proud of having you on his arm, and to desire more when he sees you.

Question is: short skinny denim shorts or not? Will he think less of you for daring the really sexy oufit? Will he think more?

This is probably the most frequent dilemma a woman will have to face (sadly enough) in her life.

There are two things you should be thinking of at this exact moment: first, what goal do you have closest to your heart? Is it really about a man? Second: what will you feel more empowered wearing?

You want to be yourself! You want to remember who you are and what you are thriving for on a personal basis, however much you like him. But also, you want to feel good in what you wear, because this is the way you will feel most confident and attractive.

Seducing is not about the length of your skirt or the decollete of your top. Sure, men will enjoy both, but does it mean they will appreciate you more for it? And more importantly, will you enjoy wearing an outrageous outfit you chose for him, or will you be concerned the whole night (in the typical womanly narcissistic way) with the shape of your upper thigh?

My very patriarchal (and very smart) grandfather once told me: I like women who leave a little to imagination.

I will rephrase his piece of manly advice this way: do not go for what you think he will find sexy, go for what you feel confident in. t is not about what you want him to see you in, but what you want to be seen as. What do you want to exude? What outfit will work best for you? You do not want to wonder what goes through his head when you are having a great conversation with him. You want to be able to be yourself. You also want to intrigue him: tease him, but not necessarily in an 'in-his-face' way.

Yes it is about the cut, fit or/and length of your dress, but more for you than for him. If you feel confident, you will project a strong image, you will feel sexy. If you hide a little, he could imagine more.

Seduction...

Champagnista V